As you’ve probably come to understand by now, no parenting question has a perfect, specific answer. There are always factors to consider when deciding whether or not to encourage your child onto a new milestone, and potty training is no exception. In today’s video, I’ll help you identify some signs that your little one is ready to start potty training, and help you determine something equally as important… Whether or not YOU”RE ready!
I get asked a lot of questions about when it is the right time to start potty training and my best advice is when you decide you’re ready to start potty training. It really is a commitment you need to make that you’re ready, there’s nothing in your life that’s really going to stress you out too much more, there’s no important things at work happening or no trips you’re taking soon and you feel like I have a couple of weeks where I can really dedicate myself to teaching my child how to use the toilet.
Now, of course, we wanna look at also the child’s development. At the two, two and a half into the third birthday, that’s usually the time frame where we start to feel like okay, I’ve changed enough diapers now, it’s time to move on from this.
So we can’t start too young. We want our children to be able to understand a couple of simple instructions. That’s basically the rule of thumb around that but one of the mistakes I see a lot of parents making is that they’re waiting for their child to agree to this. Most children are not going to agree to this. If given the chance to potty training or not, most kids are gonna say no because they don’t understand what that means. It’s scary because it’s new, it’s different, I don’t like it, there’s change involved, we don’t like change. So it would be a little odd for a child to go, oh yes, please, let’s start this very challenging process of learning to use a toilet. They are most likely going to say no.
Another thing is that they don’t wanna stop playing. If I’m playing with my trucks or my dolls or whatever and I have to use the bathroom, I just go in my diaper. I don’t have to stop, I don’t have to do anything. Now we’re gonna potty train. That means I have to leave my precious toys, get up, walk all the way to the bathroom, get my pants down, use the toilet, wash my hands. What a hassle. Really, it’s a hassle. So they are going to say no. Even if they kinda seem a little curious and they’ve maybe used the potty a few times and they think it’s kinda funny and it’s a novelty, when you actually start potty training, you are going to have pushback somewhere.
All three of my children, my daughter was the easiest child to potty train but even for her there was a day or two there where the answer was no, I’m not using this potty but the thing to keep in mind is that you’ve decided and you are the parent, you actually are allowed to make these sort of decisions and once you’ve decided to do it, you have to keep going. If you give in every time your child says no, I don’t want to, well, you will teach her that that’s all she has to do really to get out of just about anything.
So if your child says no, they will not use the potty, well, then it becomes the easy way or the hard way. We can walk there peacefully and you can try or mommy will have to take you there while you kick and scream and you’ll have to try anyway. If you’re getting a lot of pushback in that regard, I agree you wanna kinda keep this as positive as possible, setting a timer is a great way to take the pressure off of you. Just say, okay, we don’t have to go right now, let me set the timer and when we hear the bell then we’re gonna go and if you set it for half an hour or every 45 minutes is a good timeline, every time that bell goes, let’s go try. You don’t have to go but we’re gonna go try. The bell has gone. That is what happens when the bell goes and off you go to the bathroom and pretty soon your child will oh, there’s the bell, I guess we’re gonna go try and they’ll come around to this but I think the most important thing to remember is that you get to make these decisions. You’re allowed and you’re the boss and you should.
Thanks so much for watching today. Sleep well.
Why wait? Try out my No-Sweat Potty Training Program and get started today! The sooner you get the process started, the sooner you can bid farewell to diapers and baby wipes, and you and your child can both celebrate your new-found independence.
from Blog – The Sleep Sense Program by Dana Obleman https://sleepsense.net/when-is-the-right-time-to-potty-train/